- Listening to 90s- early 2000s songs – probably because they reminded me of my childhood and teenage years when i was primarily in my mom’s care and maybe these songs evoke happy, safe, feelings
- Reddit’s r/griefsupport thread – to share and vent and validate and confirm and lay bare our very many intense emotions and experiences and sadness and anger at unmet expectations- and our evolving state of being as our grief moves from month to month, increasing its distance from that ill fated day to the present moment
- Nature and more nature and then some more – visiting botanical gardens, nature reserves, petting zoos and fruit picking – whatever fits the mood
- Therapy, Yoga, Weight Training
- Metformin!!
- Going off social media and avoiding being “available” in the social media sphere where you’re almost ovliged to like, share, see your close friends posts and ‘normal lives’ and then feel shit about not wanting to engage… i dont need that responsibility for now
- Having a toddler – this one is just 25% effective – it’s amazing for all the laughs and cuteness but toddlers arw alot of work and these little, wild, geniuses create alot of work and overstimulate my nervous system so much that i need to decompress in quiet and isolation
- Human interactions
- Giving your side hustle or passion or pursuit of art that much more time and energy and focus
- Looking at old memories in photographs brings a tragic kind if relief…. Massages my grief to let go of its resolve to be composed… and fills my chest with a comforting urge to cry with my ears… my heart vibrating and exploding with love for the one i long for and lost… a good cry is also honouring our love for them….
Meesha Sharma 
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